Not our children?...

Quite some time ago I received a message from Spirit that our children are not "our" children. From a spiritual perspective our children do not belong to us. Spirit says that parents are the vessels to bring forth new life to the Earth. That each child has its own soul, divine plan, purpose, and his/her own connection to Spirit from birth to death. Now those of us with children to care for understand that we need to attend to their needs and nurture them. And there are divinely orchestrated reasons why a child is matched up with certain parents. Spirit would like us to encourage the young ones to retain their own independent connection to Spirit and rely on their own guidance system as is appropriate. Lately, this message has been coming back through readings for clients. What can happen is that if a parent goes through or is going through a traumatic or difficult experience emotionally, sometimes the parent relies on the child for support. And sometimes this can become a pattern. And sometimes a child will not move out into the world to explore and share their own divine gifts because of a perceived need to continue to care for the parent. This can cause an imbalance in the energy and difficulty for everyone. Finding a solution at that point is not that easy either. If we look to nature for guidance, we know at some point we need to do the best we can to encourage the young birds to fly free.